10 Beds I Wanna "Sleep" In

brings a whole new meaning to wet sheets, doesn't it??

Oh, c'mon now! Everyone has to try the sleezy heart shaped bed once!

I'm not sure the Rotating bed wouldn't make me sea sick, but I'm willing to try!

I know I couldn't handle sleeping on the actual sand, but I think I could handle this.

I know... but something kinda naughty about a girly/princess/silky/canopy bed =)

BUT FIRST .. I need to know how sturdy that chandelier is.... jussayin.

I'm betting this is a lot easier on the knees than the regular bath/shower thing.

It's just cool.

Fit for a king... and his queen ;)

It's the interior designer in me.... I love this headboard and I wonder what building those windows face???

10 Red Flags for Cheaters

"Come home late. It seems you barely beat the sun. Tappin' my shoulder, thinking you gon' get you some. Smellin' like some fragrance that I don't even wear. If you want some lovin', I suggest you go back there."

1. Strange Cell Phone Habits

Is his phone locked all of a sudden? Are there a million numbers with names you've never heard of?? (Slim, Moonbeam, VW, or the ever popular "unnamed") Does he take all his phone calls outside or to the other room?? Or just plain put it on silent?? Leave it in the car to charge all night cuz he "lost his house charger again"?? cheater.

2. Gossip.

I know, men are cringing right now. I'm not by any means saying listen to all gossip.... there are plenty of haters and cock-blockers out there. We all know this.... but when your five best girlfriends all saw him with the same bitch at the mall, out to dinner and at the club. Listen. Please don't fall for the much used "she's just a friend, it was my sister, your friends are hating and just wanna fuck me" That Ciara "So what" philosophy only goes so far.

3. Repetitive Date.

Aww... how sweet.. He took you to your favorite restaurant... AGAIN. Cuz it's "your spot"?? Maybe... or maybe its because he doesn't wanna chance running into someone else. If he steers clear of a certain side of town or won't go to certain places for no good reason... you can bet she or her friends work or live near there.

4. Unusual Shower Habits

Lucky you, your man always smells zestfully fresh. LMAO. If he comes home and jumps right in the shower, raise your eyebrow girlfriend. Unless he's coming from the gym, this behavior isn't normal. I mean, yeah.. a guys gotta shower... but if he showered right before he left and just "feels like his nuts are sweaty" after playing PS3 with his boys... go ahead and slap him now. You have my permission.

5. Odd Items

You've never seen those panties before. He swears they're yours. You aren't crazy, he's full of it. This also goes for random earrings and tubes of lipgloss.

6. New (additional) Grooming Habits

Aside from scrubbing himself raw... If he's taken a sudden interest in wearing new cologne, buying new boxers, or dressing differently... you have reason for suspicion.

7. MIA

He went to the gas station for a cigar and he's been gone for two hours?? In your car???... AND he can't answer his phone?? Man, fuck that dude. I hate that dude. He can die. Let's make a deal with God that he can give Michael Jackson back and take that asshole instead. SMFH. (this also goes for Mr. "I'm on my way".. and shows up four hours later.

8. Lipstick on the Collar.

It's a classic. No explanation needed.

9. Cell Phone Records and Credit Card Bills.

CLARIFICATION: Unless they are in BOTH of your names... you don't TECHNICALLY have a right to look at these and ALL arguments will be nullified by your lack of respect for his privacy ... (the same could be said for his actual cell phone)

BUT... if you just so happen to see it.... cuz he left it on his desk... Muthafucka, that shit was fair game....

10. Guy Time

He's suddenly with his friends all the time. And what more? Apparently you've been together for three years and "don't know these guys".... It's probably because they don't exist... and if you have been together for three years and haven't met his friends... rest assured, you are NOT the only one.

Circle Of Friends

GIRLS IN MY CIRCLE

When I was little,

I used to believe in the concept of one best friend,

And then I started to become a woman.

And then I found out that if you allow your heart to open up,

God would show you the best in many friends.

One friend is needed when you're going through things with your man.

Another friend is needed when you're going through things with your mom.

Another will sit beside you in the bleachers as you delight in your children and their activities. Another when you want to shop, share, heal, hurt, joke, or just be.

One friend will say, 'Let's cry together,'

Another , 'Let's fight together,'

Another , 'Let's walk away together.'

One friend will meet your spiritual need,

Another your shoe fetish,

Another your love for movies,

Another will be with you in your season of confusion,

Another will be your clarifier,

Another the wind beneath your wings.

But whatever their assignment in your life,

On whatever the occasion,

On whatever the day,

Or wherever you need them to meet you with their gym shoes on and

hair pulled back,

Or to hold you back from making a complete fool of yourself .

Those are your best friends.

It may all be wrapped up in one woman, But for many, it's wrapped up in several..

One from 7th grade,

One from high school,

Several from the college years,

A couple from old jobs,

On some days your mother,

On some days your neighbor,

On others, your sisters,

And on some days, your daughters.

Thanks for being in my circle.

Ten Ways to Feel Instantly Fabulous

1. Feathers.

Obviously most women can't pull of a boa in broad daylight, but I make them work when possible. Like on the ends of ink pens and these fabulous peacock earrings that I got from Urban Outfitters.

2. Animal Print.

Not fur, but animal print. It makes things instantly sexier. I'm an interior designer, and I love throwing in animal print where you'd least expect it (leopard print staircases), It's also fabulous to wear it where it's a secret. I have about ten pair of animal print underwear.

3. Perfume.

I make most of my own perfume, by mixing perfume oils. There is no more fabulous way to store it than in vintage crystal perfume bottles.

4. Pearls.

All fabulous women wear pearls, end of story.

5. Vintage Crystal Headbands.

Ok, the real answer here is a tiara... but that usually only works if you have an excuse (like your birthday, your bachelorette party, and maybe New Years). So, instead I love vintage crystal headbands.

6. Glitter and Sparkle.

Again, a FINE LINE between Halloween and making this work. I save it mostly for evening... sequined clutches, FINE body glitter (you aren't 13), and sparkly earrings.

7. Champagne.

I know a nice glass of wine is good and relaxing, but we're talking about being FABULOUS here. Champagne is necessary. Get yourself some cute glasses to drink it from and some gourmet chocolates, and voila!

8. Petit fours.

Cupcakes are cute, but petit fours are fabulous. Don't believe me... make the switch. Something about cute mini cakes in adorable little boxes... instant fab. Olivia and I's favorite treat!

9. Bubble Baths.

But not JUST bubble baths. You must have fabulous bath products. My favorites are Carol's Daughter and Dirty Girl products.

10.Stilettos.

Surprise! I know... but there's just something about them. They make even the most mundane tasks totally glam... like doing the dishes. And I have NEVER had a boyfriend complain about me dusting in boy shorts and stilletos.

For The Ladies

Follow Friday

As the hours get late on Thursday, I realize that tomorrow is Friday.... Oh, but not just Friday.... It's Follow Friday .... better known as #followfriday. Yes, I'm a Twitter addict.

When I first started Twitter, I loooved #followfriday. I met lots of new and interesting people and my follower count grew exponentially. Then I would spend the next week getting to know those new people who in turn introduced me to new and exciting people the next Friday.

Then something changed. Maybe it was Ashton or Oprah or God knows what else that we could blame it on, but something happened to #followfriday. It happened over the course of the past month and a half. I have yet to put my finger on what happened, but it's just not the same.

Maybe it's me.... maybe the novelty wore off... but no, because I'm not the only person who feels this way. I have friends who WON'T twitter on Friday anymore... just because of #followfriday.

It totally consumes Twitter. There is no regular Twitter on Friday anymore.

Everyone is suggesting and suggesting and suggesting and nobody is following. Sure, your follower count grows a little, but not like it did before. Everyone is too busy talking and nobody is listening. I think there are two main issues.

1. I think that there is an overwhelming sense of guilt among people. Everyone is too worried that somebody is going to get their feelings hurt if you don't recommend them. To the point that we are recommending almost EVERYONE who follows us. That doesn't work.

2. I think at the same time, everyone is out for themselves. The constant RTs are killing me. People are RTing every Tweet they see their name in.... in turn, recommending people they probably don't even follow!!! How are you gonna recommend somebody you don't even follow??

Anyway... I'm no expert... I don't know what to do to fix it. I brought this up on Twitter last Friday and got a lot of good responses. I asked what can we do to make #followfriday better. Here are some of the answers I got....

1. Follow People.

The Point of #followfriday is not to gain followers... it is to meet new people. With the way Twitter has been putting everybody in the slammer this week, you should be locked out for at least one hour tomorrow. Use this time to follow interesting people and not to tweet.

2. Write Recommendations.

Instead of writing a list of people to follow that looks like this:

#followfriday @Hail_Mary_Jane @LordLike @Aftashok @SKORPIOLOVE @girlrokkstarr @jawar @BossTycoonLZ @IamMrBloom @PrincessPayne

Try writing one like this: #followfriday @Hail_Mary_Jane He's one of the funniest guys on Twitter and one of the first people I followed. He runs a great site on sports news, urban trends and marijuana news.

Give them a reason to follow the person that you are suggesting. It's two-fold. It tells the person you are recommending what you value about them, and it helps make your tweet stand out among the lists of names. They are more likely to be followed this way.

3. Sort.

If you don't feel like you have time to write about each person, at least categorize the people you are recommending. Try grouping them by things they have in common... like music, sports, location, or other common interests. i.e.

#followfriday MOMMYS: @BishImmaStar @WildFlowerSweet @HildaG420 @IdkDivas @MissJo_Jo @DaYziEbAbY

4. Follow One.

For every tweet that lists your name, follow one new person from that list. It's that simple... just a little rule to keep you following new people.... and to make the cycle keep happening so that everybody grows.

5. Clusters.

This will be something new that I am trying tomorrow. I will be Tweeting individuals directly, and recommending that they follow specific people that I think they would truly enjoy. I.e.

@StraitJigg #followfriday Did you know that @Aftahok @IamMrBloom @NolaUptowner @JaySkillz and @NewOrleans7 are all Louisiana people too??? Follow Them

Granted, its a little more aggressive of a tactic... but I'm gonna try it.

Anyway... Comments are open, let's see what we can do to fix this shit.

Twitter County Jail